Hello Thursday... One more day until Friday :)
Today I am writing from the heart. I am having a big struggle with working full time and having our 2nd baby in March. I have been trying to think how am I going to balance this all and how so many women out there are so lucky that they get to stay home with their kids. I know it is not easy work because some weekends when I am home all day with my little one I want to pull my hair out. I would love to have the option to work part time or stay at home. Not sure how we can make it work though, so I know I am going to have to work full time and I am just having a hard time with it. All, I think about is am I doing the right thing. Sometimes its hard to wake up and go to work and drop your little one off at day care. How do you do this full time working moms? Stay at home moms how did you make the decision to stay at home?? I just need some advice and help. Sorry for being so honest but my heart has been heavy this week with thinking about this. Also, thinking do I want to do back teaching to have all the time off with my babies.. Thanks girls I love all your advice and feel like I can be honest... It's not always easy..
I work part-time, so I kind of know what SAHMs and working mamas both feel to an extent. I would prefer to stay at home full time, but financially it is not feasible for us. That's why I work about 15-20 hours a week. One thing that is sometimes a little difficult for me is feeling inadequate, as far as working is concerned. I was a straight-A student even through college and always defined myself by my success in school. So, I always assumed I would be some amazing career woman in the future! But when my first baby was born, I knew I wanted to spend as much time at home as possible...which means doing a job that will allow me to be part-time. Right now, that is being a secretary. And while that does not exactly leave me feeling fulfilled or useful, have to remind myself that I am choosing this job at the time so that I can spend as much time at home as possible. I know that was kind of ramble-y! Hope it made sense :)
ReplyDeleteI'm not really much help but I just wanted to say that you're not alone in this. My twin boys are a year old and STILL struggle with this daily. I desperately want to stay at home with them but financially it's just not feasible for us. I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. I pray about this for our family daily on what I can do to be with my boys more so if you figure out a magical solution- feel me in! Sending prayers for you and just know you're not alone!
ReplyDeletePraying for you!! XO -
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you're struggling with this! It should just be mandatory every Mom gets to stay home (if she wants) and all would be ok financially. I worked full time until we had #3 so I know how you're feeling. For me, I knew in my heart I wanted this time with my kids. It meant giving up things, changing our lifestyle a little, but for what I'm gaining by staying home, it's all worth it. I hope you can work something out! xo
ReplyDeleteI have to work out of necessity. It hard for sure but I know I am answering my calling to be both a mom and teahcer. Would I love to be at home with my kids? Yes! Do I sometimes get jealous of those with the option? Yes. However, I'm doing what I know I need to do for my family and that is what truly makes a good mom. Personally it was harder to go back after baby #2...but doable.
ReplyDeleteI struggle with this too. My twins are 21 months and I had to work. We made car purchases way before getting pregnant (7 months before) along with a mortgage and what not. It is tough sending my girls to daycare daily, but they do love the social interaction. They do get sick more often, but they are building their immune systems up. I stayed home with them for 4 months when they were first born and it was rough. So I know it would be hard full time at home. My hat is off to stay at home moms. They are rockstars. It will be hard to go back, but maybe you and your husband can talk options on you staying home, looking for part time work or something like that. We are thinking about that too.
ReplyDeleteHi Chelsea! Well first of all your are just the cutest little thing. I'm so sorry you are struggling with not being able to stay at home. Fortunately I was very blessed and able to be at home with my kids. I'm now an empty nester (as of August). When I knew last year I was going to be having time on hands with no kids at home I made the decision to start my blog and become a consultant for Rodan + Fields. You've got a blog ;) so I'll just thrown this out there, have you considered direct marketing like R+F? There are a LOT of women who have been able to quit their full time jobs thanks to this company. You are a beautiful girl and I imagine with your teaching background and connections it would be a great fit for you. It's just food for thought. Let me know if you have any questions. Stay strong sweet girl!!!
ReplyDeleteHi Chelsea! Well first of all your are just the cutest little thing. I'm so sorry you are struggling with not being able to stay at home. Fortunately I was very blessed and able to be at home with my kids. I'm now an empty nester (as of August). When I knew last year I was going to be having time on hands with no kids at home I made the decision to start my blog and become a consultant for Rodan + Fields. You've got a blog ;) so I'll just thrown this out there, have you considered direct marketing like R+F? There are a LOT of women who have been able to quit their full time jobs thanks to this company. You are a beautiful girl and I imagine with your teaching background and connections it would be a great fit for you. It's just food for thought. Let me know if you have any questions. Stay strong sweet girl!!!
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